The twenties are a hard time. You have passed out of college. It is time you contributed to society, made your mark, your dent on the universe. The issue is that if you are anything like the average Joe or Jane or Harmeet or Gurmeet, you haven’t a clue of what you are up to. If you are Indian, you may have most likely gone through education like an obstacle course runner… Steadily crossing each level to emerge err… victorious, but with hardly a clue about what lies ahead. Colleges these days hold placements, which is like a random allocation of people to companies and roles. Post this random allocation, you are gleeful for a couple of months. You have, technically, made it. Six figure package, swanky office, smart office wear, a jet setting lifestyle and maybe a company laptop thrown in to make you feel like you have arrived. A couple of months down the line, you are wondering… Umm… Where exactly have I arrived? Where was I headed anyway?
In the meantime you are expected to have confident answers to questions like – Where do you see yourself five years from now? What are your strengths and weaknesses? What are your key personality traits? You are thinking to yourself, trust me, you don’t want to know. In the meantime, your parents (yeah, that’s how we roll in India) decide you have settled down and are old enough to be married. Blame that one on inflation and inflated salaries. All this while. you still have no clue of what you are doing. So you decide to go with the flow. You keep flowing, while hairlines keep receding, bellies start protruding and the greys start appearing.
In the good ol’ times mid life crisis was popular. The crisis of being 40ish and wondering whether you have spent your life in the right direction and what is the way ahead. Today’s world is much faster and such crises emerge quicker too, hence the rising incidence of quarter life crisis. Having hit 25 recently, I am bang in the middle of one. And oh boy, does it hurt. But I’m at it. Finding the person that is me.
Are you going through something similar?